http://www.wivesroundtable.net/recent.aspx Wivesroundtable - Recent Posts en-us http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Jitbit AspNetForum Sat, 15 Jun 2013 10:14:21 GMT Sat, 15 Jun 2013 10:14:21 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic133-handling-friendship-wit-d-opposite-sex-in-marriage.aspx <P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-add-space: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 1.0pt">Handling friendship with the opposite sex in marriage:<o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-add-space: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 1.0pt">Since married couples are social beings, they will have to relate with members of the opposite sex as friends, colleagues, and acquaintances. Such relationships require wisdom and great caution for a married person. This is because of its consequences on the marriage if not properly handled. As a married person, you need to take great care, and apply wisdom in establishing friendship with a person of the opposite sex. For instance, a married man having another married or single woman as an intimate friend requires caution and wisdom. The reason is that such friendship may end up as office romance or extra-marital affairs thereby posing great danger to the marriage.<o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-add-space: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 1.0pt">The golden rule for me here is this, intimate friendship should never be cultivated with a person of the opposite sex by a married person. An opposite sex friend must never become your best friend or close confidant. This role is exclusively reserved for your spouse. The reason is that such intimate or close confidant or best friend scenario often leads to extra-marital affairs. It may also lead to vain imagination that both of you would have been better as married couple. The truth, however, is that should both of you have been married to each other you would most likely not have been the best couple. The reason being that there are games we play outside marriage, which we will never allow in a marriage setting. If you as a married person must cultivate friendship with persons of the opposite sex, the following facts must be put into consideration to avoid friction in the marriage. </P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-add-space: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 1.0pt">The first thing you must do is to Work at making the opposite sex friend a friend to your spouse.This is a major pre-caution against adultery in marriage and the unnecessary tension it may generate in your marriage. Don’t establish a friendship with the opposite sex at the disapproval of your spouse. If your spouse does not like or want the friendship, discard it, no matter the benefit accruing to you from it. When your spouse is against it, it means he/she feels threatened by it. There is no reasonably tenable reason to continue with such a friendship to the displeasure and disadvantage of your spouse. No relationship with the opposite sex should matter to you than that of your spouse. Your marriage should take priority in such a situation, and must be treated as one it. Otherwise, you will jeopardise your marriage or put it at risk. Never make your spouse a subject of discussion between the two of you. Do not expose the weaknesses of your spouse to your friend of the opposite sex. Refrain from comparing your spouse to him or her. Otherwise, you will be presenting a platform for your opposite sex friend to take advantage of you, knowing that you may not be happy with your spouse. Don’t go on outings alone. Be it movies, games, club houses, recreation or for vacation, don’t go by yourselves. It is the breeding ground for extra-marital affairs. Don’t make sex, especially your sex life, a subject of discussion with him/her. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>For instance, telling him or her your pleasure point for sex, or exposing the fact that your spouse does not satisfy you sexually is a total no. When you do, you are starting a fire which you will not be able to extinguish with the best of fire extinguishers, at least not without burns. You will put yourself at the risk of ending up in bed with each other. Avoid unnecessary or close body contacts such as hugging, necking, kissing, pecking, tickling, leg romance e.t.c. Never allow your handshake to go beyond the elbow like the Igbo adage says; otherwise, it may become an unholy wrestling contest. Beware of opposite sex career mentor or godfather/godmother relationships. Such relationship is not meant to become a replacement for your spouse. Never allow it to take over the place of your spouse. Your friend of the opposite sex should not be your counsellor when you quarrel with your spouse. Seek counsel elsewhere to avoid disaster. He/she should not be the one providing you with a shoulder to cry upon in your distress moment. Wisdom demands that you avoid such help from him/her. A little too much” kind of friendship with the opposite sex. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Friendship with the opposite sex becomes a little too close for comfort when you are always thinking about him/her on a daily basis; when it happens that hardly can a day pass away without you sparing a thought for him/her; when you are always looking forward to your meeting with, or eager to hear from or speak with him/her; you always wonder where he/she will be, or what he/she will be doing at a point in time. Like an artist sang many years ago: “Hello! Is it me you are looking for? I wonder where you are, and I wonder what you do; are you somewhere feeling lonely, or someone loving you. This kind of thought life is best reserved for your spouse, rather than for a friend of the opposite sex. Anything contrary becomes a problem needing urgent attention. What threatens your spouse about your friendship with the opposite sex? When you speak glowingly about him/her at the slightest opportunity. For example, at every discussion with your spouse, there is something to refer to about him/her. When you speak of him/her at odd times/hour. Such as before, during and after sex with your spouse. Things like, “Mary said sex is best enjoyed with light out” or Jide said, “This sex position is outdated” or you begin to talk about Sade’s best food or colour. When you often refer to his/her comment as to his/her likes or dislikes when you are with your spouse. I remember a woman who, at the dining table with her spouse, said the food she served was her male colleague’s best food. The husband simply told her she could take some to him right away. Doing or saying such things can lead to serious friction in the marriage. So, avoid them like a plague in order to protect your marriage. There is a mould in your thought life where only your spouse is allowed to fill. Don’t allow any other person, especially of the opposite sex, to fill such a space in your emotions. Lastly, let me say that do not think that you can handle opposite sex intimate relationship without problem. People who feel like that are the one greatly at risk of messing it up. They end up as bad insurance risk in such relationship. When you feel like that, or always say it, you are an easy prey. So keep off of it to prevent the inevitable extra-marital affairs, with consequences you may not. <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-add-space: auto; mso-line-height-alt: 1.0pt">Hope you all learnt a thing or two, as I surely have!<o:p></o:p></P>
edited by butterfly on 6/15/2013]]> Sat, 15 Jun 2013 10:14:21 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic124-what-is-it-with-some-guys-and-boobs.aspx Its making me consider having a boob job after i am done with having kids. ]]> Mon, 29 Apr 2013 12:59:29 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic123-can-one-respectfully-turn-down-a-toaster.aspx Sun, 07 Apr 2013 05:54:30 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic123-can-one-respectfully-turn-down-a-toaster.aspx Fri, 05 Apr 2013 09:50:27 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic118-pray-for-ur-kids-as-much-as-u-can.aspx Tue, 26 Mar 2013 21:29:17 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic13-preferences.aspx Thu, 21 Mar 2013 11:39:28 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic117-divorcee-friend.aspx Thu, 14 Mar 2013 14:11:03 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic118-pray-for-ur-kids-as-much-as-u-can.aspx Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:14:45 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic13-preferences.aspx Thu, 28 Feb 2013 20:59:04 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic117-divorcee-friend.aspx Thu, 28 Feb 2013 20:48:48 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic13-preferences.aspx Thu, 28 Feb 2013 08:43:19 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic13-preferences.aspx Fri, 22 Feb 2013 22:22:51 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic3-attraction.aspx Tue, 19 Feb 2013 16:30:47 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic13-preferences.aspx Mon, 18 Feb 2013 04:05:47 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic117-divorcee-friend.aspx Mon, 18 Feb 2013 02:20:57 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic33-can-a-man-rape-his-wife.aspx Sun, 17 Feb 2013 11:40:34 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic33-can-a-man-rape-his-wife.aspx Sun, 17 Feb 2013 11:37:30 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic111-docan-men-fake-orgasm.aspx Sun, 17 Feb 2013 01:57:04 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic77-sex.aspx Sun, 17 Feb 2013 01:53:30 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic116-remaining-hot-in-bed.aspx want to copy out some tips here for him.<o:p></o:p></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">All is not about sex in marriage
but sex plays a very important role in the happiness of the two people involved
in a marriage. That is why every couple must look into how to improve on their
sexual life at all times, because as somebody once said, the only room that can
never get filled up is the room for improvement.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">However good a couple’s sexual
life is, it can always get better. The truth is, in life, nothing is meant to
be stagnant. Everything living thing is meant to either be growing or dying.
Anything that is stagnant is actually dying because growth signifies life and
marriage relationship is not an exception.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">As your relationship with your
spouse is increasing in years, your knowledge of your spouse is expected to be
increasing, your level of intimacy is expected to be getting better and your
sexual life is expected to be getting richer. But the question is, is this the
situation with you and your spouse? The answer in many homes is NO! And it is
so because things don’t just get better with time. Only the things we work on
get better with time. It takes a conscious effort on the part of the two people
involved in a marriage for things to get better. It is not automatic. Many
couples’ sexual life deteriorates with time rather than get better and they
accept it as normal.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">A 76-year-old American, with a
wife who is three or four years younger, was asked how often he made love to
his wife, and he smilingly replied, “At least three times a week!” And he
added, “Now that I’m retired, we have more time for that sort of thing.” 
If this same question is put to the average Nigerian man, I’m not sure his
response will be the same. Even if he would have loved to, his wife might not
have made it possible, because over here, it is believed that even before you
are near that age, you ought to have retired from anything called sex and be
moving from the home of one child to the other helping to nurse your
grand-children.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">A new year has just begun and
this time of the year is known for making resolutions. There is no better time
to resolve in your heart to make your marriage a better one than now. And one
key to ensuring this is to work on making every sexual relationship with your
spouse a memorable one for both of you. This, you will achieve, by improving
your sexual performance and tactics. Great sex like every other great
achievement starts in the mind.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Create a love-filled and romantic
atmosphere<o:p></o:p></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">Achieving better performance does
not start in bed; it starts with you creating a love-filled and romantic
atmosphere that is conducive for fire to spark between you and your spouse at
every unexpected moment. To ensure a love-filled and romantic atmosphere in the
home, you must “stay in touch” with your spouse. This will entail you touching
him/her, speaking through eye contact, sitting together to watch television,
sending text messages and so forth. You and your spouse must also create room
for proper communication and this requires that you respect each other’s views.
Never explain away any complaint from your partner as this brings about
tension, rather than romance. Resolve all conflicts quickly, however difficult
this may be. Never sweep any conflict under the carpet for this will amount to
postponing the evil day. Learn the art of playing and cracking jokes with each
other for this enhances intimacy and prepares you emotionally for sexual acts.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Have a frank talk with your
spouse<o:p></o:p></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">Frank talk between a couple that
is working towards better marital relationship and better sexual performance
will afford them the opportunity of ironing out whatever might have been
constituting hindrance to achieving these goals in time past. This is because
rather than assuming what pleases or displeases your spouse, it gives you the
opportunity to hear from him/her what you have been doing that you need to stop
doing, and what you should do that you have not been doing. This will go a long
way to make things better between you. It is wrong assumption for you to think
you are satisfying your spouse.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; vertical-align: baseline;"><b> Be love-driven rather than
passion-driven<o:p></o:p></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">In satisfying your sexual urge,
it is important you do not create the impression that you are only driven by
your passion to satisfy your sexual urge and not by your love for your spouse.
Many men create do not take into consideration what they need to do and how
they need to go about having sex with their wife that will not just satisfy
their sexual urge, but also satisfy their wife as well. Sex is for mutual
satisfaction, and whatever will make the satisfaction mutual should be pursued
by the two.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Treat her like a bride<o:p></o:p></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">Because men usually don’t have
problem of sexual arousal and reaching orgasm due to their body make up, it is
usually the woman that needs to be worked on to make sexual arousal and orgasm
a reality. Therefore, every man should help his wife to make this a reality by
treating her always as a new bride. It is true every woman is not a bride but
every woman want to be treated as one even by her husband of 20 years. Can you
remember how you did it the first night?<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">You reduced the room light to the
barest minimum.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">You played soft music.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">You gently undressed her and you
did it in stages.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">You passed compliments on her
that made her feel so special she didn’t want to leave your arms.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">You spent enough time on foreplay
as if you had all the whole time in the world to spend with her and her alone.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">You entered her so gently and did
it so softly that she never felt anything better like it before.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">Even though she didn’t experience
an orgasm, you made her enjoy the warmth of your embrace several minutes after
the intercourse and it didn’t matter to her if the whole world had crumbled.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">But now, you do it as if you are
in a hurry to have what you want and the moment you are through, you roll off,
and the next minute, you are snoring.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Treat him like a groom<o:p></o:p></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">You remember what it was like
when you newly got married. You took time to prepare yourself for your husband.
You went an extra mile to make yourself attractive to him. You were careful in
choosing what you wore. Your night dress was one he could not resist. But now,
those things no longer matter to you. This year, you must go back to treating
your man like you did when you newly got married to him.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Experiment with new styles<o:p></o:p></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">This is also a time to try new
sex styles. This creates great excitement for the couple as they explore better
ways of deriving sexual satisfaction for each other. It’s like eating a type of
food in many ways. For instance, eating beans as moinmoin, akara, beans soup
(gbegiri), and so forth. So, use this period to make life more beautiful for
yourselves by breaking new grounds in love making. You can also try new
locations and different times of the day; if you have always done it at night,
try during the day. If it has always been in your house, you can go for a
‘retreat’ with your loved one. All these will help in renewing your commitment
to one another.<o:p></o:p></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>Educate yourself on the art of
lovemaking<o:p></o:p></b></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;">Readiness to learn the art of
lovemaking by every couple will make them masters at the act, and thus make
them to ‘live happily forever thereafter.’ Dr. Ed Wheat of Springdale,
Arkansas, United States of America, once said, “If you do what comes naturally
in lovemaking, almost every time you will be wrong.” This is because like every
other physical activity in life, the art of lovemaking must be learnt. That is
why couples must invest in literatures, seminars and conferences, and
programmes where such knowledge is imparted. After all, without sexual fulfillment,
a person is not complete.<o:p></o:p></p>

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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">Below is a part 2 of the
write-up on the importance of sexual satisfaction to the success of a union.
Please read through.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><font face="Times New Roman, serif">In my last write up, I
established a major factor responsible for lack of sexual fulfilment in
marriage as being the differences in the body make up of man and woman, which
is responsible for the variation in what sex means to a man and what it means
to a woman. For a man, sex is an “any day”, “any time” thing while for a woman,
it is not so. Sex is usually the last thing on her mind. And to solve this
problem, she should be prepared ahead of time for it. This, her husband should
ensure.<o:p></o:p></font></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><font face="Times New Roman, serif">Today, I will like to
consider other factors that can enhance sexual fulfilment in marriage
especially from the angle of a woman. Before I go on, I will like to emphasize
the importance of sexual fulfilment in marriage to every woman. From
observation, I know that very few women are sexually fulfilled with their
husbands.<o:p></o:p></font></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">For such women, sex time
is a time to give their bodies to their husbands so that he will not be tempted
to get it outside. Hence, it is about their husbands, not about themselves.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">The first few years of my
marriage, I had sex majorly for two reasons: one, for procreation and to
satisfy my husband’s sexual urge. So, my attitude was always, “get it done
quickly and leave me alone.” But then, I came to realize that my husband was
not satisfied sexually despite the fact that I tried to make myself available
to him whenever he wanted it. I realized that his satisfaction is not just
about having me whenever he wants me, but seeing me sexually satisfied each
time we had it. His ultimate satisfaction comes from knowing that he is able to
take me to the pinnacle of sexual satisfaction. When I am not sexually
fulfilled, he feels less than a man. With this in mind, I decided to change my
attitude towards sex and this made me to discover what I will be sharing with you
today.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">In my discovery, I
realized that sex is a thing of the mind. Sexual satisfaction begins from the
mind. For a woman to experience sexual satisfaction, her mind must be tuned to
it. She must desire it and look forward to it. She must set her mind to it.
This is a thing that requires a conscious effort. She must convince herself
that sex is not just to satisfy her husband’s cravings so that he will not be
tempted to have it with another woman outside, but rather a gift that God, the
originator of sex, has given to husband and wife primarily for the pleasure of
both of them. As long as you believe it is about satisfying your husband, you
will always rob yourself of the pleasure of love-making. Remember, the body
goes whatever direction the mind goes. Consciously tune your mind to have sex
that you will never forget with your man today, and you will see your body
chemistry responding instantaneously, even to your own surprise. With a mere
touch from your man, your body is set aflame.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">Talking with my dad on
this issue one day, he said African women are pretenders. On asking him what he
meant by that, he said they will initially do as if they are not interested in
having sex but no sooner do they get into the act, they begin to moan in
pleasure. But are we truly pretenders? Maybe some women are, but I can’t
comprehend why a woman should pretend with her husband. In my opinion, I will
say what is responsible for this is not actually pretense, but rather, the fact
that her mind was not tuned to it as at when initiated. But the moment she set
her mind at it, his touch did the magic. It sparked a fire in her and she went
aflame.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"> Another thing that
enhances a woman’s sexual satisfaction and makes sex with her husband what she
will always look forward to is when she learns to obey the ‘ten commandments of
sex’, and that is “Thou shall not lie down like a log of wood.” It is termed
Ten Commandments because it comprises of ten words. Great sex requires active
participation of both the man and woman, and not that of the man alone. The two
must be actively involved in it. It should not just be the man alone that is
taking every initiative, doing all the touching, all the kissing, all the
caressing and all the fondling.  The woman must feel free to do whatever
she feels like doing during the act of love making that will enhance mutual
enjoyment, after all, that is the only man that you can call yours in the whole
world. He belongs to you and you belong to him. You are permitted to go as wild
as you can with him in love making. That he will think you are a loose person?
I can assure you he won’t feel so. That is what men look forward to in their
wives. That is why many men patronize sex workers because they go as wild as
they can with them without any sense of restraint.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">A woman’s active
participation during sex will make her husband feel that he is not being
selfish by just using you to satisfy himself, but that he is carrying you
along, and that he is not just at the giving end, he is also receiving. But
when all a woman does is to put herself at the receiving end by just lying down
like a log of wood and not actively participating in sex, the signal her
husband gets is “you are bothering me, please do what you want to do and let me
rest”; even when she is truly enjoying it. Being responsive to your husband
during the act of love making sends him a signal that you appreciate and
approve of him. It makes him feel on top of the world.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">It is essential that
every woman makes sexual satisfaction a priority both for herself and her husband.
She needs to know that her sexual fulfillment enhances that of her husband. No
man is sexually fulfilled when he is not able to satisfy his wife. It is also
important that I say that a man’s performance in every other areas of his life
is tied to his bed. This is because sex plays a major role in how he sees
himself. For instance, a man’s manhood is bartered when he is not sexually
fulfilled.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">His self-image and
self-confidence become low.  This is because his ego is tied to his sexual
fulfillment. I am yet to see an impotent man or one who is sexually frustrated
who is so confident of himself in other areas. Such men become easily
irritated. And their frustration is not limited to the home front alone, even
in their places of work, you can easily know them. But a sexually satisfied man
is one who will rapidly develop self-confidence in other areas of his life. The
truth is, that you give it to him when he wants it is not enough, he wants to
see you enjoying every moment of it. His satisfaction comes from seeing that he
is able to take you to the pinnacle of the show – orgasm.  <o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">Conclusively, no man
feels truly secure with his wife when he is not able to satisfy her in bed. He
can never believe that he has you to himself and himself alone.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">The fear of you trying
it out with somebody else in search of sexual satisfaction will always haunt
him and he will suspect every move of yours with the opposite sex.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:9.0pt;mso-bidi-font-size:11.0pt;
line-height:115%"> </span></p>]]> Mon, 11 Feb 2013 12:31:01 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic114-sexual-satisfactionbig-deal--successful-marriage.aspx matter what the problem is in marriage, as long as the couple still enjoys good
sex with one another, it can easily be over-looked". Good sex cannot take away distrust arising from infidelity, good sex cannot take away physical and emotional abuse etc. Good sex can only even be considered 'good' when the 2 parties are at peace with eachoda. I don't know abt u ladies,but if am upset with my husband, d last thing I want is him touching me,talk more of having sex. So how does good sex make it right?
I have an aunt whose younger sister refused to marry a man everyone knew loved her silly just cos he wasn't fantastic in bed. She had met someone who took the word 'bedmatics' to a phd level! She married d sex guru. (She had confided in her elder sister dat dat was why she didn't want to marry d oda guy) years into d marriage,d abuse - both physical and emotional began to take its toll and she moved back to her parents home. She confessed dat the 'good sex' lost its flavor after some time and dat it didn't bring with it any form of intimacy.
Long and short of my gist is 'sex is very essential in marriage but good sex does not make everything right'. But I so totally agree with d writer on men 'preparing' their wives adequetly b4 attempting to make love to dem - with sweet words and gestures. Sadly,only very very few men know to do dat! They just toss, turn and climb!
Overall good write-up sha!]]> Wed, 23 Jan 2013 09:59:08 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic114-sexual-satisfactionbig-deal--successful-marriage.aspx
<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">Happy New year to you
all. <o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">Came across this
article, couldn't help sharing, enjoy!<o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">The rate of increase
in the number of people filing for divorce in our courts of law these days is
becoming so alarming.  Even many couples who are not considering divorce
are not doing so, not because they are enjoying their marriage but simply because
they have resigned themselves to fate since they cannot face the stigma of been
tagged a “divorcee.” So, they rather stay in and suffer in silence.<o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">There are several
reasons people give for seeking divorce, but my experience in marriage counseling
has made me realize that the bedrock of every of those reasons is poor sex.
Hardly will you see a man or a woman in court on the basis of lack of sexual
satisfaction, especially in our side of the world, but underneath whatever
reason they give is the monster of sexual dissatisfaction.<o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">The truth is, no
matter what the problem is in marriage, as long as the couple still enjoys good
sex with one another, it can easily be over-looked. The two can easily find a
way around it. But the moment they no longer enjoy good sex with each other,
issues that were never considered to be problematic suddenly become matters
that can no longer be ignored.  The quality of sex and what it represents
plays a major role in the quality of every marriage: poor sex will always
result in a weak marriage and vice versa. So, if you are not enjoying a great
sex life with your spouse, it is important you both find out what is wrong and
make changes before it costs you more than you bargain for.<o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">However, it must be
stressed that great a sex life between a couple does not come just because the
two love themselves. As nothing good comes easily, there are prices to pay by
both parties if they will enjoy great sex life with one another. They must both
recognize and appreciate the importance of great sex life to their union and
achieving it must become their mutual goal.<o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">The question you may
want to ask is this: if sex is God’s gift to married couple and they are both
created as sexual beings, why should there be any problem in expressing
themselves to one another in sexual intercourse? Why should enjoying a great
sex life with each other be an issue since they both have the urge for it?
 <o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">Enjoying great sex
with your spouse is a function of many things, but a major one is the
difference in the body make up of man and woman. A couple that will enjoy a
great sex life must recognise the difference in the body mechanism of man and
woman and seek how to use it to their advantage. This difference is what is
responsible for the variance in the way men and women view and respond to sex.
A good understanding of this will go a long way in ensuring that sex becomes
something that you and your spouse look forward to.<o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">Sex, for a man, is an
“any day” and “any time” thing. He needs no special preparation for him to have
good sexual intercourse with his wife. Mere seeing a part of her body can set
him aflame  and as far as he is concerned, he sees no reason why she
should not be ready to receive him any time he signifies his intention to have
sex. A woman on the other hand, views sex in a different way. For her, good sex
requires preparation. A fire brigade approach does not work. While her man
needs no special effort to be aroused sexually, she needs him to help her
become sexually aroused by his sweet words and gentle touch. This is because a
woman’s response to sex is slow and gradual but that of a man is quick and
spontaneous.<br>
 Somebody once said that there are only two things on the mind of a man
when he is coming back home after work: good food and good sex. But this is not
so with a woman. Many times, sex is the last thing on her mind due to the fact
that she is a multi-faceted being, and that is why her husband must take time
to prepare her ahead for a good show. A man once said that for him to get the
sexual response he desires from his wife at bedtime, he begins to prepare her
right in the morning.<o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">King Solomon in his
wisdom describes a woman as a well and a man as a fountain (Proverbs 5:15-18).
Water is not found on the surface of a well like it is with a fountain.  Anyone
who will get water from a well must be ready to reach deep down into it and
draw it out. Likewise is it with a woman, her man must be patient enough to
reach down into her, draw out her affection and bring her to a place of sexual
excitement and fulfillment. This takes time. It takes a lot of petting. It
takes planting yourself into her heart hours before show time. And at show
time, it takes a lot of kissing and fondling. A man should never be in a hurry
to draw from his wife, for the “well is deep.” Anything short of this, she sees
herself as being used.<o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">The beauty of sex is
lost when the fulfillment is not mutual. I remember a couple I had to counsel
with on this issue. The woman had developed apathy for sex because according to
her, all he does is to use her to satisfy his sexual desire, after which he
rolls off to the other side of the bed, taking a deep sleep while she is left
to cry herself to sleep, feeling dejected and unfulfilled.<o:p></o:p></font></span></p>

<p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 6pt 0in; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="color: rgb(68, 68, 68);"><font face="Tahoma" size="2">So, the goal of every
man should be to make sex something his wife will look forward to and this will
only be made possible when he makes taking her to the climax - reaching orgasm
- his focus at every show time. On the other hand, the woman must make herself
attractive to her husband and make him feel welcome at all times.</font><font face="Arial, sans-serif"><o:p></o:p></font></span></p>
edited by butterfly on 1/15/2013]]> Tue, 15 Jan 2013 12:30:59 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic95-whats-your-favourite-time-of-the-day-for-sex.aspx My favourite time is night time cos I sleep like a baby after sex!]]> Sat, 12 Jan 2013 07:28:12 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic113-is-it-too-much--ask-hubby--say-i-love-u-often.aspx Sat, 12 Jan 2013 07:14:32 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic95-whats-your-favourite-time-of-the-day-for-sex.aspx My ppor husband just doesnt understnad it. so sometimes when i want to reward him for something nice he did i surprise him. but that means i have to wake up first brush and have my morning coffee then wake him up with BJ. (That is if he had a shower b4 he slept).
I think its the bad morning brreath i dont like. it really puts me off. So its gotta be a positon facing away from each other.
other than the morning, i quite like when its raining or snowing. lol]]> Tue, 08 Jan 2013 19:16:43 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic77-sex.aspx Tue, 08 Jan 2013 14:30:37 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic111-docan-men-fake-orgasm.aspx Tue, 08 Jan 2013 14:15:54 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic112-do-you-really-know-what-goes-on-in-those-crches.aspx Mon, 31 Dec 2012 05:18:57 GMT http://www.wivesroundtable.net/topic71-running-for-my-future.aspx Wed, 12 Dec 2012 15:39:48 GMT